Anonymous medical student

Watching palliative care doctors have these discussions was illuminating. Rather than use phrases like “do you want us to do everything?” they ask “do you want to allow for a natural death?” which sounds better and is more true to what’s going on. They also start by asking what the patient wants, then includes the family in discussion, and constantly frame everything in the context of “this is what’s best for him/her because this is what he/she said she wants” instead of “this is what modern medicine CAN do.” I think everyone should have a chance to work with palliative care doctors to get their perspective on death and dying discussions.